If you’re searching for the answer to a dilemma, begin with a mirror, because the person who stares back is more than likely the problem, and more than likely has the solution.
I currently imagine myself like a long-ago launched spacecraft that is now leaving the solar system. I’ve been journeying for fifty years, but now find myself leaving familiar territory – our own solar system – and heading into parts unknown. What I’d like to happen is to fall into a nice steady orbit around a welcoming planet…but I’m not sure that’s actually in my future. Perhaps a lifetime of wandering and making observations is more likely.
One recent discovery is that (when not lost in space) hanging out with the right people is super important. Knowing kinda sorta what these people look like is one thing; finding them is quite another. I guess the ego would like to find folks who are approximately like me, at least in the spiritual sense. The wider spiritual sense that is, meaning they have a similar life philosophy, political philosophy, morality and so on. Plus it would be nice if they could communicate in the same way I do, which is sometimes direct, and more often elliptically. I enjoy small absurdities.
So that’s become a priority, if we can ever rank such a thing as the chance of meeting like-minded individuals. I guess if we look, they’ll arrive, but, hey, whatever. The important point here is that I understand now that being alone like I have been isn’t healthy or productive. We are social creatures, which is a practical admonishment, not simply a generalized platitude.
Perhaps the best thing would be to ditch the space voyager analogy altogether. More important to look at that mug in the mirror and take a careful shave. That’s way more likely to help with finding my tribe.